Cosplay generally stands for costume play and is a performance art where the participants who are called ‘cosplayers’ generally wave fashion accessories and costumes in order to represent a specific character. Men wearing dresses is unattractive. Unless you’re into the Plus-Size range. They won’t be able to wear your clothes.

It was cute as kids played mom and dad roles or mom and mom roles but as adult sissies…not so cute. Yet men crave for it. Yet crossing genders in cosplay may be very profitable. Think Robin Williams in Mrs. Doubtfire or Dustin Hoffman in Tootsie. In fact, many cosplayers regularly make between $100,000-200,000 per year. Cosplay, or the practice of dressing as a character from a movie, book, video game, or other form of media, is a growing industry. For some, it’s a hobby. For others, dressing up is a year-round profession.

Clothes make the personality. But there’s more than clothes and wigs. There are inflections of speech. Hand gestures, and accepting common roles attributed to gender. Women….well all we need is to wear the pants and imitate men. Men…need several courses.

In a female dominant relationship, men should think deeply before agreeing and transferring their gender identity. Most women prefer males to sub, or another female. Then cosplay may make sense as a game, not a lifestyle.

But I just love wearing pants.

You meet, have dinner, go to bed with passion’s lust, and after the dust settles, it’s time to think. Does he, does she? Should I? Shouldn’t I? Love isn’t automatic. The next moves are critical. Is there attraction? Mild attraction? Ambivalence? Like? Love? Really love?

Then there is identity within a relationship. The engagement tradition normally involves an engagement ring of value. Is that the initial purchase? Then sharing costs for dress, party, etc. Choosing wedding rings (and he pays) and buying them. This is anti-matriarchy…it’s a form of trade and ownership. Having a child may reverse the privileges once gained.

Matriarchy is about mutually reciprocal love…on an equal footing. But there must be respect among identities. Do you exchange rings for collars? Should women be in charge of the relationship? Time leads to changes in relationship dynamics.

There are divorce rate statistics that indicate marriage has a 50% rate of succeeding over 7 years. The 7-Year itch. Another mode occurs after kids grow-up.

Some delve into D/s of various layers of vanilla. Others find balance. Others get confused. Then there’s sickness and death.

The languages and traditions of love have plasticity and successful men and women have choices. Women and men have extra-marital affairs.

In the tango of love and legal foam, is marriage really necessary in matriarchy? Should it be modified? Will it? When? Living requires powers of positive thinking. Love is an action that often thinks out of the box. And takes active work if you are not owned but loved.

Men want it and women want it. Is that true?

Yes, the Trans movement is on the rise. Yet, biologically, men and women have different bodies and we should be thankful. While I wear size 4 to 6, men require the Plus-sizes. Ugh! Unsightly.

The idea is to shape behaviors. A sissy is my girlfriend who happens to be a man. Think of the movie, When Harry Met Sally.

Only, we can share make-up, cosmetics, and other things women enjoy. I lead and S/he follows. And S/he gets into dynamic and wants more. There are many more things we can share without dresses.

Sissy is a man’s thing. A working sissy in an FLR just might be what any woman really wants. Do you?

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WC Fields said “Never Give A Sucker an Even Break”. We have been, and continually are prey to predators all over. Internet was a key target. But, now, web sites such as Twitter, Instagram. Kik, and others are filled with many.

During the Pandemic, sex workers ran to social media sites. Along with them, came wannabe sex workers. They seek money as “Tributes” and may never provide sex in exchange. Some may be under age, others might be different genders that their Avatar pictures are representative of. These are the Gold Diggers that are targeting social media wallets. The prostitutes may be off the streets but now social media has found a new home to sell illusions.

Many of these sell BDSM, targeting lusty men and women. This shames legitimate LS lifestyles and MUNCH communities. It’s also dangerous. Fueled by feminist fantasies, concepts of FemDom, Matriarchy, FinDom and other forms penetrate social media as real desires. And Twitter is filled with women marketing financial domination.

It is a shame for womanhood and the successes we fought for rights and freedoms. It is also an abomination to legitimate sex workers seeking legalization through building unions around western civilization.

Sex of any kind, if adult, safe, sane, consensual may be a healthy lifestyle. It is an integral component toward wellness. In balance. Yet, gold digging, tribute starving characters polluting social media sites are taking women back to the brothels. And that’s not healthy for womanhood. And, as the pandemic fades, I hope that women and men may get back to a better normal. And we can attract fashionably.

What do you say?

It’s been called the world’s oldest profession. Prostitute, fallen woman, courtesan, soubrette. And there were many that had no other opportunities than choosing that way of life. Then there were escorts, no sex companions.

Escorts were very popular. Many attractive people chose to be escorts as a means of paying for education, or paving a way toward wellness. Some became MSW social workers. Is no sex implied escorting sex work?

Still, around western civilization, sex workers have rechanneled the field. Traditions as dom male and sub female has turned its head in a post feminist life choice.

And online, it worked smoothly, at BDSM groups and MUNCH, it was pretty cool. But the pandemic opened up social media, somewhat abstract, as a tech method of marketing that is alternative to porn. And there is a market, across genders.

Italy has a prostitute party in government! It is about time that sex working move out of the closet. It should be elevated to lifestyle work. From leatherware to silk, fashion loves body form. Fetish or not, clothes don’t merely protect. They tease and empower. And, as one of the most money-making professions, being a model doesn’t necessarily preclude or include sex.

Wherein any relationship, safe, sane, consensual agreements among partners are important. That includes D/s, BDSM, and role-play. Nice work if you enjoy it. At the core, like office workers – where there are managers, administrators, and general staff, every one barters time for something. Far from bitcoin, pay pal, sex work is work. With as many flavors as Baskin Robbin’s ice cream.

Pray the pandemic is over. Delight that all work is normal. And that meeting flavorful mates returns, after a good hard lesson. And legalize sex work all over. Far more acceptable than cheating or killing over.

We are creatures of habits. We are also addicted to them and old habits die hard. We go to great lengths to stop and change how we eat, use drugs, smoke and others. Pavlok reaches to behavior modification to help. This wearable technology emits a safe electric zap if you are about to do a nasty habit. One of many devices not requiring a prescription. It is based on early psychology forms of operant conditioning. But does it work?

People used to tie strings to fingers to remember appointments or tasks. Bracelets are replacing it. Doesn’t work. We have jeweled bracelets to remember relationships of love. Colored bracelets to remember causes. Bracelets with smart apps for fitness and texting. Pavlok is a $200 app-based bracelet that aids behavior modification. It’s a cross between Pavlov and Skinner to help change bad lifestyle habits.

Pavlok 2 uses beep, vibration, and zap to help you break bad habits and build good ones. Pavlok 2 teams up with the Pavlok mobile app to not only track your habits, but change them. Pavlok 2 is the wearable device that releases a mild electric stimulus to help you reduce cravings, break bad habits, and change your life. Pavlok is your natural and lasting solution to quitting smoking, nail biting, hair touching, negative thinking, procrastinating, eating sugar, and more. Worn as a bracelet, Pavlok is not easily removable. Does Pavlok work in your troubled lifestyle?

Pavlok indicates: ” At it’s most simple form, Pavlok is a behavior training device that works by utilizing Aversive Conditioning. Aversive conditioning is essentially behavior training that uses negative stimuli and association to help reaffirm a specific action as undesirable. It conditions the mind to associate undesirable behaviors with negative stimuli. It aims to do this by exposing the patient to the negative stimulus when s/he feels an undesirable urge.

The theoretic model is based on experimental psychology from the 1930’s called Behaviorism. Behavioral therapy has many branches that are commonly used:

• Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. …
• Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) …
• Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing Therapy (EMDR) …
• Exposure Therapy. …
• Interpersonal Therapy. …
• Mentalization-based Therapy. …
• Psychodynamic Psychotherapy. …
• Therapy Pets

Virtually all of these have been scientifically tested, with varying results.

The behaviorist school of thought ran concurrent with the psychoanalysis movement in psychology in the 20th century. Its main influences were Ivan Pavlov, who investigated classical conditioning, John B. Watson (1878-1958) who rejected introspective methods and sought to restrict psychology to experimental laboratory methods. B.F. Skinner, sought to give ethical grounding to behaviorism, relating it to pragmatism.

Behaviorism is a worldview that operates on a principle of “stimulus-response.” All behavior caused by external stimuli (operant conditioning). All behavior can be explained without the need to consider internal mental states or consciousness.

Sounds logical, doesn’t it? The use of a passive subject confounded the early model. What works with animals does not work with people, This is why temporary weight management and fitness goals don’t work. People have independent thoughts and choices to foods and behaviors they like.

Humans appear to react well with the cognitive behavioral models. Cognitive behavior therapy is based on a cognitive theory of psychopathology. The cognitive model describes how people’s perceptions of, or spontaneous thoughts about, situations influence their emotional, behavioral (and often physiological) reactions. Individuals’ perceptions are often distorted and dysfunctional when they are distressed. They can learn to identify and evaluate their “automatic thoughts” (spontaneously occurring verbal or imaginal cognitions), and to correct their thinking so that it more closely resembles reality. When they do so, their distress usually decreases, they are able to behave more functionally, and (especially in anxiety cases), their physiological arousal abates.

Aversion therapy associates negativity to behavior control. If you are driving 45 mph in a 35 mph zone, you will be ticketed and fined. If you park in a “No Parking” zone, your car may be towed and fined. Many of our daily behaviors are patterned by aversion. Pavlok aims to help modify some of your behaviors using mild torture.

Using the slightly uncomfortable stimulus of a shock, Pavlok helps train your brain to associate the bad behavior with the uncomfortable stimulus. And after as little as a few weeks of associating the two with consistent use, your brain begins to say:

“Hey wait a second. Maybe I DON’T like smoking.”

“Hey wait a second, maybe that donut doesn’t do much for me at all.”

Which puts the ball back in your court.

You know that friend who won’t eat Taco Bell anymore after she got a terrible case of food poisoning? Or your other friend who swore off alcohol after having three too many shots? That’s aversive conditioning.

Pavlok first introduced the Shock Clock app. The Shocking alarm clock actually trains you to wake up. Your brain LEARNS when it’s really time to wake up. You KNOW a zap is coming. So you wake up – alert and ready to turn it off. Of course you have to habituate wearing it to bed.

Pavlok 2 is user customization for aversing different target behaviors. Whether you want to set an alarm to remind you to drink water, or a buzz to get you out of bed, there’s nearly endless customizations that can fit your exact situation.

A wearable device that tracks your sleep and provides the necessary stimulus (beep, vibe, and zap) to wake you up in the morning. Make your success a reality. Stop trying to wake up and actually do it with The Pavlok.

Then there’s the APP. A mobile app that gives you complete control over your habit. Track your cravings, indulgences, and apply negative stimulus (via the Pavlok wearable) to successfully quit your habit in as little as 5 days.

Pavlok offers coaching options. “A course that teaches you the fundamentals behind successfully breaking bad habits and building good ones. Knowledge is power, and we give you that power in this course. It’s time to be free of your addiction and regain control of your life.”

My main criticism of the Pavlok is it has an automatic or off switch. How aversive is it if you can turn it off. Does it remind you to turn it on? It does. Sync your Pavlok with Alexa, IFFT, Zapier, Google Chrome and more. You can even have Alexa zap you! But…you won’t be fined, jailed, or whipped into submission of your negative habit.

Aversion therapy causes change by replacing positive associations with a behavior with negative associations. Aversion therapy mainly uses operant conditioning, averting the undesired behavior by engineering negative reinforcement. There is evidence that aversion therapy works, but it is often called into question or criticized. This is for a number of reasons, the first being that studies done on its efficacy have not been entirely rigorous.

There are many wearable health technologies competing in this market, including NEEM, an app for weight management. They offer coaching options at costs per month. Like all others, Pavlok makes money using after-purchase options.

When it comes to breaking bad habits, motivation comes from your brain. Most people love their bad habits and lust for them. Deprivation starts all sorts of body functions. An electric zap won’t stop them. It might notify you that you’re doing something you shouldn’t. Sold on Amazon and other major health retailers, Pavlok does have an on/off button. Does that make sense?

If you enjoy being shocked, Pavlok may be a worthwhile tool. Whether it’ll get rid of chronic nasty habits is a question that has few finite answers. Theories are nice. Results are another story.

There was a popular play called Arsenic and Old Lace. It was about two old ladies who had a room to rent. If an applicant had no relatives or friends, he was given elderberry wine laced with arsenic and just a touch of cyanide. They had 12 bodies in the basement. Consumer Reports published an article that Keurig Spring Water (sold at Walmart) and 365 Spring Water (sold at Amazon Whole Foods) had high levels of arsenic.

Long-term exposure to arsenic in drinking water may cause cancer in the skin, lungs, bladder and kidney. … The likelihood of effects is related to the level of exposure to arsenic and in areas where drinking water is heavily contaminated, these effects has been seen in many individuals in the population. Researchers found 3 parts per billion to 10 parts per billion units in the 2 Spring Water samples that were analyzed. Poland Spring is 2 parts per billion. In Europe ug is used and is 1-millionth of a gram)

According to the Centers for Disease Control, Arsenic is an element that occurs naturally in rocks and soil and is used for a variety of purposes within industry and agriculture. It is also a byproduct of copper smelting, mining, and coal burning. A natural spring (or water well) may be passing arsenic deposits that might fall in minuscule amounts into spring water.

Of course the underfunded Environment Protection Agency offers lists of of safe and unsafe water by State, the old wisdom of boiling water doesn’t work with arsenic. Heating or boiling your water will not remove arsenic. Because some of the water evaporates during the boiling process, the arsenic concentrations can actually increase slightly as the water is boiled. Additionally, chlorine (bleach) disinfection will not remove arsenic. So for those coffee drinkers, if supplied water has arsenic, some may be in your cup.

The Food and Drug Administration (FDA) observed arsenic deposits in processed rice cereals, as well as water. The FDA also found that in many cosmetics amounts of arsenic, cadmium, chromium, cobalt, lead, mercury, and nickel are found in very small amounts.

The Consumer Research group noted that the FDA does not test and make clear recommendations of what a small amount is. How many parts per billion is safe in your drinking water?

According to H2O labs, Distilled water is the PUREST drinking water possible. Distilled water is the PUREST form of water. People are under the false impression that their tap water, and even bottled water and water produced by home filtration systems is “pure“. It isn’t. Caveat, H2O labs produces water distilling equipment.

USA and FDA have not effectively set standards for water with hard metals such as arsenic. The arsenic levels of 23 mineral waters on sale to the public in the United Kingdom were measured. The arsenic content of most waters was below 1 μg L(-1) but the statutory limits of 50 ug L(-1) for natural mineral waters and 100 μg L(-1) for non-alcoholic beverages were exceeded by the French mineral water, Vichy Célestins (220 ug L(-1)). Regular consumption of mineral water of such elevated concentration could make a significant contribution to the intake of the more toxic inorganic species of arsenic, with possible adverse long-term effects on the health of some individuals. The general need for analytical speciation studies of dietary arsenic is emphasized.

Seltzer carbonated water is triple filtered. It is artificially carbonated and has no sugars or calories. There are no real statistics on arsenic in seltzer. Sparkling water, however, does come from springs. There may be arsenic levels. Perrier indicates arsenic is not present.

Long-term exposure to arsenic in drinking water can cause cancer in the skin, lungs, bladder and kidney. It can also cause other skin changes such as thickening and pigmentation. The likelihood of effects is related to the level of exposure to arsenic and in areas where drinking water is heavily contaminated, these effects can be seen in many individuals in the population. Increased risks of lung and bladder cancer and skin changes have been reported in people  drinking up to 50ug daily.

While the lands are rich with waters, some of those vital sources deliver toxicity by providing nutrients that aren’t healthy over years. What we hold as truths, water may be more harmful and should be used responsibly.